Is he cheating?

On Sunday one of my girlfriends called me almost in a panic.  She had been trying to call her guy from the night before;  left messages and now it was almost the end of another day and she had not heard from him.  She was not worried that something may have happened to him. Her first question was; ‘Do you thing he’s cheating?  I spent all my time trying to convince her he was not. I didn’t have the heart to tell her what was really on my mind-if you have to wonder if he’s cheating then there is something wrong with the relationship.

I know they say all Jamaican men cheat, but I personally think that’s not true.  Recently  I overheard a friend saying she’s not ‘so audacious to think she’ll have a man all to her self.” I’m sorry but that  shows  how little she values her self, to be content with sharing.  Not all men cheat and if you have to be checking his phone, then chances are there are trust issues in that relationship and its probably best if you end it.

But if you think I’m just being naive, her are some signs that he might be cheating;

- Less sex.  Lets face it this is like oxygen for most men. If he’s getting it from another source, you will notice a decrease and it may be a sign that something is wrong in the relationship.

- Ah the good ‘ole’ phone calls. We shouldn’t have to worry about who he’s getting calls from or texting.  But when he becomes anxious and protective  about his phone calls or texts, that may be a sign that something is not right.

-If he’s unavailable for long periods without a reason, then he may be cheating especially if there is a pattern.

-If you catch him in a lie, its good to forgive but not forget.  If he constantly lies about large or small things, this is establishing behavior that cannot be trusted so it maybe your cue to get out.

-Once a cheater always a cheater. I was reading marie claire recently,  and it noted that cheating is a self serving act and they are right, its not that his ex didn’t make him happy. If he’s cheated before and your sixth sense (that almost never fails) tells you he’s doing it again he probably is.

However,  don’t become uncessarily paranoid and suspicious, this will definately drive him away. But lets get smart. Do you think the above signs are valid grounds that he’s cheating?