Would you go counselling with your boyfriend?

We started an informal conversation on the Flair desk on this topic recently and the affirmative lost out. Most of the ladies on the desk believe that if you and your boyfriend have an issue so big that both of you have to see a counselor, it is best to end the relationship.

These ladies admitted that if they were married it would be different. If  while married they had an issue that they  deemed earth shattering enough, they would make the effort and consult a professional.

However, considering counselling is not such a bad thing. Yes, yes we know that the “c” word is viewed as a bad word for many Jamaicans.  But, look at it this way, no relationship is perfect and maybe if you can work through a rough patch before you get married (with the help of a counsellor) then it makes for a stronger relationship afterwards.

By no means does this mean that for every problem and with every boyfriend you run off to seek professional help. Counseling should be reserved  for a relationship you have invested a number of years in,  for someone you believe you have a future with; and of course, if you think the issue can be resolved.  Additionally, the entire process can be confidential.