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Baby Watch

We’ll start this one off with a preamble; Children are blessings to this world. Most parents are happy to play their role. We believe this to the fullest. That aside, what is up with the constant ‘when you going to have a baby’ question?

Babies are not just cute little things that you dress up.

Based on Flair’s experience, it comes from everyone; friends, parents, and those not that close to you. One person even gets it from her Gynaecologist! It’s directed at those who are married, those in a relationship, even those who aren’t in a relationship. Come on, give us a break!

We are not referring to those made in jest, we’re talking about the serious queries. I’d like to think that if a woman is of child bearing age without a child, maybe it’s because she’s not ready to have one? Could that be a possibility?

In a society where it seems there are more single parent homes than partners willing to raise a child in stable and loving relationships, you would think that it would make sense a woman plans before she has a child? When a woman is without a child in Jamaica well into her child bearing years, names start reeling off the tongues; mule, barren, lesbian and the list goes on. A similar scenario ensues for the men; ‘you no get no youth yet?.

From what we understand, children aren’t just cute cuddly toys with which you play dress up. Aside from that, it is also a great possibility for a woman, or even a man to have a fulfilling life without having children.

Come on it’s a choice. We will when we’re ready.

Tags: baby, child bearing age, mule

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3 Responses to “Baby Watch”

Donovan says:

May 20, 2009 at 3:38 am

I’m a guy and I go through this constantly with my family, especially my father. At first I didnt want to have kids while I am in the Amry, but when I realized I wanted to make it a career, I decided to go ahead and start a family. My marriage ended in divorce and I’ve been sick for the past 4 years battling some liver issues. what I want more than anything is to be a father and have a family of my own. I ask God everyday to let me make it out of Iraq, which is where I am now on my third tour so I can live to experience the joy of been a father. Also, that my parents and family will be understanding and patient instead of asking constantly, when am I gonna get some kids. if only they know how it feels dealing with this kind of stress while battling my medical issues.
Rhona Hylton says:

May 25, 2009 at 10:40 pm

Like many woman my dream was oneday to have a child, but until three years ago i had a medical problem and and as a result i can only get pregnant by doing an invetro fertilization, this devasted me. Currently am in a relationship for the four year and for the past two years it has been going down hill because my fiance says he “don’t think he want any more children” although he knew before hand that i wanted and say we would discuss it after i complete my degree.It hurt because i love him but my need and desire are different from his, so it’s only a question of when. So donovan i share your desire too.
fireblaze says:

May 27, 2009 at 6:17 pm

people should be mindful of their own business and not of others. i get that a lot from friends and persons who don’t know me wanna know when i am gonna “bus a youth”. they don’t know your capabilities and yet they think your wasting time. no one knows for sure if they will be ready to be a father or mother and there are no manuscripts that indicate a step by step process of raising the perfect child so i think you should think before u let 1 million go. financially and mentally be ready to handle what comes with the responsibility of raising a child.