Women its’ Your fault
The other day while I was at my hair dresser, I happened to over hear the most disturbing conversation. Apparently the hairdresser’s friend called her to vent (as we girls sometimes do) about her boyfriend. Now her ‘boyfriend’ is married but separated from his wife. He and his girlfriend now have a child together. She needed some money from him to help with the child’s medical bill but he said he had no money because; he has to pay his wife’s rent and buy food for that house. This is from a man who uses the girlfriend’s car and sometimes take the wife around in it.
This may seem like common sense but what is she getting from that relationship? Why does she put up with all this craziness? Obviously financially this man is no help even though he sleeps in her house and eats her food. Why doesn’t he go and be with his wife since he’s paying rent for her place and buying food for her house? I did not get into the people’s business to find out if he had children with the wife but regardless , why do women put up with such things?
I have come to the conclusion that Jamaican men treat Jamaican women the way they do because they put up with it. If they did not, then they would have to shape up. Listen, we women are in charge. They need us more than we need them. My advice to Jamaican women is; he sleeps out, leave him; he hits you, leave him; he’s cheating right in front of your face, leave him. Until we stop putting up with their garbage they will continue to be disrespectful simply because they can get away with it.
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I have only one problem with this comment and is the fact that this reader thinks men need women more.I totally disagree because from what I have read in the bible and from my experienced in life it goes both ways in a relationship. No man or woman is inferior to the opposite sex,while men were built with the physical strength,women were built with the mental strength,they were made to compliment each other so while I agree with most of your arguments I cannot agree with that part because thoughts like this will only cause problems in relationships.
firstly i must disagree completely with ” … we women are in charge. They need us more than we need them.” i dont know how you guys arrived at this conclusion but i dont believe its inaccurate. such thinking can only further deepen the power struggle in relationships. with the thinking that men need women more than we need them can lead to imbalances in relationships where women believe that men owe them the world. and thats not fair to the men especially since some women want a lot without giving anything at all!!! we all need each other and thats the bottom line!!! both men and women need to get rid of the mentality that gives them this unfair sense of entitlement just for existing.
it is unfair for a man to tend to a woman’s every need if all she ever does is bitch and complain. it is similarly unfair for a woman to be mistreated when all she does is take care of her man. neither sex is entitled to anything from the other. instead both parties need to be respectful and appreciative of what they have found in their respective spouses.
Unless we change the things we accept from our partners then our situations wont change. there is no point in crying out against ill-treatment if its occurrence is meted with no resistance then it wont ever cease. both men and women need to acknowledge their value and ensure they receive the blessings they deserve.
As a guy its only normal to reject such a statement. Not saying what he’s doing is right but most women today after years of fighting for equality have gone passed that to believe that men are inferior, and to only look at a man as a worthy of being a partner only if he’s able to uplift her financially, what happened to love and “he completes me” some women nowadays don’t believe at anytime that they can contribute and that a couple can grow together through the hard times
well ” sorry my dear but i have bad news for some Jamaican women !.. i just read that the sex crime bill has passed. and the marital rape is also included!. ” That’s where women are now going to suffer, because of other women thinking they are in charge!.
This bill in effect will bring marriage to a screeching halt!. further more ,women will now have to give to really get!. No more freebies. so more men will just pay for sex and get it and over with . while women will be longing to be wanted to be taken by a man to called her own!… so your assumption that woman is in charge ! has just die in the Senate of Jamaica with this new crime bill.
Every case of infidelity has it’s differences and similarities. The blame game is a waste of time, why, when and how doesn’t matter once you’ve placed yourself in this situation…. This woman should rectify this situation by moving on with her life, leaving this man and his wife (because she’s in a relationship with his wife also) and take responsibility for the child she decided to bring into the world. The truth sometimes hurts but there is NO doubt about the fact that this man has never and will never put this woman or child 1st in his life because she never demanded such treatment from day 1….Life Goes ON!!!! Learn from your mistakes don’t repeat them!!!!
true love regardless of creed, colour or culture begins on the inside.
until we truly and completely love accept, value and respect ourselves, no one else will.
And if you had to quantify it I’d say men are in charge because I see more women going to men specifically because the man has money, and so they sit down and shut up and take crap because they want to live the uptown or hype life. And they stay in these relationships because they don’t want to go back to where they came from. It’s a business transaction plain and simple, and women are free to cancel the contract when they want to, BUT THEY DON’T WANT TO!
As my female friend says “everyone must know what they are willing to put up with.”