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11 Responses to “Great sex”

1. Bobby Lue says:

   August 19, 2009 at 8:33 pm

   I must say that I am tempted to agree that “good sex” is 70% emotion, and 30% physical for men also, largely because I believe that this is how it should be (and many times it is). But I have to shamefully admit that the physique is generally the most powerful sexual stimuli known to the man’s brain. Good sex for a man is therefore instinctively as carnal as a lion tearing-up a deer. When he says he’ll tear-it-up, he means tear-it-up because this is how his brain is wired.

   A socially cultured guy, however, will go to great lengths to ensure that the woman’s desire for quality sexual (as opposed to a man’s unflattering carnal overtures) are supported to allow her to enjoy what is esthetically referred to as “good sex”. If only men and women were wired the same…boy…oh boy. What a wonderful world it would be?
2. owen says:

   August 20, 2009 at 2:01 pm

   I’d say sex is 100% physical anything emotional is foreplay
3. BOB says:

   August 21, 2009 at 7:59 am

   WITH ALL THESE LITTLE SEX SECRETS COMING OUT ON THE WHOLE SPECTRUM OF SEX.
   THERE ARE 2 TYPE OF PEOPLE WHEN IT COME TO SEX. AND I WOULD PUT YOUR QUESTION AT 50/50 THEN BRAKE IT BACK DOWN TO YOUR 70/30. THE FIRST TYPE YES FOR THEM SEX IS 70% EMOTION. BECAUSE THEY CANNOT THINK OF ANY THING ELSE WHILE ENGAGED IN THIS PERSON THEY ARE ABOUT TO BED, BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO BE SO CONNECTED AND THEY WOULD WANT TO TRY NEW THINGS TOO SO AS TO ENHANCE THEIR EMOTIONAL PLEASURE.USUALLY THIS ONLY HAPPEN IN REALLY DOWN RIGHT LOVING RELATIONSHIPS!…

   ON THE OTHER HAND. THERE ARE THOSE WHO NO MATTER WHAT IS GOING ON ITS ALL PHYSICAL THEY HAVE NO EMOTION TO THAT PERSON . ITS JUST THE STAMINA THRUST AND LENGTH OF TIME AND PAIN AND PLEASURE.
4. Celia says:

   August 23, 2009 at 10:10 pm

   I, too, watched the broadcast of Kathie Lee and Hoda. Conversations about this topic always arouse my curiosity. Good sex is only good when it fulfills that insatiable need to feel wanted. I prefer good love making. Sure it’s semantics, but if it is someone that you truly love and adore it’s so much better than good sex. Anyone can have good sex, but can just anyone have good lovemaking? I’d wait a lifetime for good lovemaking over good sex.
5. Elizabeth says:

   August 24, 2009 at 6:42 am

   How great sex is rated is not as easy as a percentage value between physical and emotional. Remember location throws a different spin on things. The natural desire must be there-50%, the emotional takes it to a different, more lasting level-35%,but there is nothing like having sex in that out of the norm location-15%. If all three are in the mix…wow. Men keep that in mind.
6. Bobby Lue says:

   August 25, 2009 at 8:08 pm

   HMMMM!

   Let us be care that we are not over-analyzing this thing, you know. I don’t know about all this mathematics and arithmetic. Quantifying sex makes it sound a little too complicated for me.

   At the risk of adding to the complication, let me just say this. It is obvious that sex can not be a one-dimensional undertaking, because it clearly takes different things to satisfy different people (no matter what the DJ say). It is also clear that some people will mostly be satisfied in sex, while some will hardly be satisfied in sex, and some can not enjoy sex at all(for various biological or psychological reasons).

   Now for some people sex is recreational (a chance to show off the “Big Stick” or to boast about the “Needle Eye”). For some, sex is therapeutic (a chance to release the pressure, to cuddle, or connect with our love ones). For others, sex is a function of the marriage (the right to have sex just because….). Still some have sex because they have to (to keep the big car, to keep the job, or juggling to make a living).

   Good sex means something different for each individual, but it might also means that you need to find yourself a partner who is not going to tell you that “mi naaw du dat”. Because maybe the “dat” is exactly what makes it click for you.

   It might help also if guys are a little more considerate of their women sometimes (it takes a little longer for women to get there). And women, you have to do a better job of explaining to men that it takes a whole lot more than turning you back ways, or rattling the bed, to make it happen for you. Don’t assume that the brightest guy out their understands that.
7. BOB says:

   August 27, 2009 at 8:14 am

   BOBBY LUE.

   IF I HAD SAID IT BETTER !… I WOULD HAVE HAD MY PHD.LOL
8. Duane says:

   August 27, 2009 at 11:32 am

   The problem with this debate is that men and women experience sensations differently (men are easy the woman just needs to show up and we are fine), and further still every individual experiences sex differently. One person may prefer to be beaten to within an inch of their life and that’s great sex. Lets not even mention the weirdness on youtube. Fact is to each his/her own, but in my humble opinion. Sex is at its best when two people are crazy about each other and attentive to the needs of the other and comfortable with each other to the point where as one poet put it brilliantly… “so close that your hand upon my chest is mine,
   so close that your eyes close with my dreams.”
9. Komar says:

   August 28, 2009 at 12:53 pm

   Bobby Lue, you crack me up . You made a lot of sense though.

   For a very long time, I did not enjoy sex as an end to rather as a means to help foster a connection; then I hit my thirties, had my first orgasm and I have been horny ever since .
10. Jacqui says:

    August 31, 2009 at 3:19 pm

    Good Sex vs Lovemaking: Good sex should be the final portion of lovemaking. In lovemaking, if your lover is apt at his craft he needs not go to sex. Lots of men don’t have a clue about lovemaking, they might only show a ‘little’ attention to a specific part of the female body then jump into the act of vicious sex. Most males are satisfied with sex albeit it good or bad. Females crave lovemaking. Ohh where are those men who know how to make love?
11. Brina says:

    August 31, 2009 at 8:12 pm

    Bobby Lue, I’m a big fan . Its true what you said but I also want to say that some women need to take it upon themselves to be educated about what makes you go.I also believe it(making love)cant be quantified. Being open minded is one concept but please be comfortable with yourself. Please don’t forget that its majority mental as well. Trust me if you can engage a woman’s mind, half the battle is done.