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Are single women happier?

A few weeks ago, the soloist in the Flair tackled the issue of being single and happy based on a Sunday Gleaner lead story. So that got me thinking, how happy are married women versus single women? When we say single we mean not in a relationship.

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Pros of being single

- Freedom surfaced as the number one advantage. Not to say when you are in a relationship you are shackled, but the freedom to do whatever you want whenever is not there. You don’t have to think about anyone feelings and you can be spontaneous.

- At home you can leave your stuff all over the place without considering that it’s someone’s space as well.

Cons of being single

-Loneliness - there is no one with whom to share that special bond. If all your girlfriends happen to be in a relationship, then the time they spend with you will now be divided.

Pros of being married
- You have the companionship of that special person.

-Whatever you have to do or go through, you are never alone it’s now a group effort.

Cons
-Almost anything you do has to be done bearing someone else in mind.

- You really don’t have any alone time. After all you can’t be in the same house and ignore each other now can you?

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9 Responses to “Are single women happier?”

Mrs.jamerica says:

July 24, 2009 at 3:07 pm

Well this is one that I can go on and on about because I have had the priviledge of being married @ a young age for 10 years then divorced for 9 years and now remarried on Dec.31,08 in St. Elizabeth and I now know that this is the 1. I feel YOUNG people should enjoy the freedom of being single but @ the same time act responsibly. With age comes a different set of demands and mindset, goals and aspirations and I’ll say 2 mature like minded heads are better than 1…. Single and Married Life both have perks but NO normal human being wants 2 grow old alone…….. It’s NOT NATURAL!!!!
Neutral Soul says:

July 26, 2009 at 6:08 am

Despite all the “crap” we “independent” modern day female talk about, we still yearn for a meaningful relationship. Many of us “claim” to be happier single, but in reality we are just scared of being hurt,rejected or taken advantage of. Many have experienced these negative emotion and allow our selfs to believe that we are indeed better off being without a man. We indulge our selves with materiality to cover the loneliness (which is just a front). Yet when we are alone at nights in the quietness of night, we are left feeling extremely lonely and depressed.. Truth is very few “real” man in this world who can handle a modern day independent woman without having ego issues…. Still looking for one…
Sue says:

July 27, 2009 at 9:57 am

I do think that someone can be single and happy, it all depends on what it takes to make an individual feel fulfilled in every way, married or single.
Ommugabe says:

July 27, 2009 at 8:47 pm

I truly hope that this is not a serious question or a popular question?
The affirmative would indicate just how lost our females have become.

Women were ‘designed’ PRIMARILY to be good mates and moms!
ALL healthy females would be so inclined.

There is NO OTHER ‘enterprise’ healthy females could engage in that would offer greater fulfillment than family. NONE!

Mates and moms are happier females, by a wide margin!
A female having ‘issues’ may feel otherwise; but she would by no means be representative of the female population.
uncensored_mind says:

July 27, 2009 at 9:30 pm

i dont believe that there is any one answer to this. i think that people are happy at different stages of their lives. so being single may provide sufficient contentment and happiness to a point, much in the same way that being in a pairing may provide happiness at a different point in the same person’s life.

some choose to be alone but humans are social so i dont think the choice is usually a permanent one. i believe that even if people fear love/pain or whatever negatives they believe relationships bring, at some point there will be strong desire for companionship.
Sash says:

July 28, 2009 at 9:02 am

Being single carries 100% freedom and no-one will ever back away from freedom however the point will appear in their lives when they will want to experience that feeling of belonging and care for and by someone. A complete balance is required between being yourself (single phase) and appreciating/recognising the love and affection for/by someone else. There is not a happier state – whether single or married, its what you make of it.
Ommugabe says:

July 29, 2009 at 10:36 am

Sash says:
July 28, 2009 at 9:02 am

Of course there is indeed a ‘happier state’.

And that ‘happier state’ is the state to which the vast majority of females have NATURALLY gravitated throughout the long history of the species.
And that state is surely not one of ‘being single’!

These questions are not answered by looking at the lives of a few females here and there.
The correct answer to these questions are determined by examining a ‘Representative Samples’ of female populations over huge swathe of time.

Women being mates and moms IS the ‘happier state’; otherwise Mother Nature wouldn’t have designed things that way, and for the vast majority of females throughout the history of the species.
melody says:

August 2, 2009 at 9:16 am

A lot of of single women want to be married and a lot of married women want to be single.
Ommugabe says:

August 3, 2009 at 6:37 pm

melody says:
August 2, 2009 at 9:16 am

‘No rest for the wicked’, eh, Melody? lol